WHEN is the best time to announce a pregnancy? I have wanted to write about this topic for a little while. Do I believe that I have THE ONE RIGHT ANSWER for EVERY WOMAN? Absolutely not! It seemed fitting to share from a not so average mama, my perspective on pregnancy announcements.
Part of my story is hard to write about, but at the same time if I hold back and don’t share, I think potential opportunities would be lost in ministering to SOME women. That said; my first pregnancy announcement, OR LACK THEREOF, was difficult for me. It was an unplanned pregnancy, and I was alone in a Burgerville restaurant when I took the test and it was immediately positive. I was pretty shocked to say the least. I was 26 years old, and finishing my last term of my accounting degree before heading to PSU to get my MBA on a scholarship. Things were very complicated for me, and the news to those around me wasn’t received well. All I knew at the time was I needed to do whatever I could to protect the baby inside me. The joy the pregnancy brought to my heart had everything to do with the blessing of being a mom and loving my baby with all that I was. I even gave her the middle name Joy. And it FITS her perfectly. She’s a beautiful girl, and her heart of graciousness and for missions is a lot like mine. Her life is proof of how God works things out for our good for those that love Him.
My second baby was through adoption, and I was so happy to be telling the world about her arrival! This was before Facebook of course, but I was telling everyone in my life about the miracle of her life and how I became her mom.
My third baby was also unplanned. I was a single mom with two little girls, and had been through much loss and devastation in a short period of time. I was disconnected from family and had a couple of close friends that helped me keep up. Prince Charming and I found each other, and it wasn’t long before we were pregnant. We called our family to let them know. We got married while I was pregnant, and really committed our lives at that point to serving the Lord and raising our family in Him and for Him. This was when the whole trajectory of my life changed. I haven’t looked back since. And the unbelievable blessings that God has poured out onto us is humbling and I am SO THANKFUL. GOD’s WAYS WORK!
With the next four pregnancies including the baby I miscarried, we were so excited and announced them right away. Here are pictures of three of those announcements.
Now that I am pregnant again, after having the miscarriage, it got me thinking about the timing of announcing pregnancy. Stay tuned for the official announcement! Blog readers get to know ahead of time! 😉 When do we do it now that we have had a miscarriage?
My answer is….the same as all the rest which has been right away. And here’s why:
1. Every life is precious. We believe that LIFE begins at conception. And LIFE is WORTH celebrating!
2. Our lives are surrendered to the Lord, and we have committed my womb into His hands. We do not have to be ashamed, embarrassed or fearful of SHARING of our lives lived for Him.
3. The Bible talks about letting our lights shine. We want to be light in a dark world, and there is no other way than to be childlike in our faith combined with a love for others. Sharing candidly about the blessings and trials in our lives can have a profound influence for God. We want to be used for His glory.
The obvious question is: What happens if you announce your pregnancy and then you miscarry?
My answer is simple. We trust God with everything, ESPECIALLY our own and our children’s lives. People “knowing” we miscarried is not a bad thing. So many showed us love when we miscarried a couple months ago. God revealed Himself in others to us. God also revealed Himself to others through our loss. Sweet conversations took place. We were able to share of the HOPE that is within us.
There may be those who disagree with my approach. That is fair. Some women are more careful in what they share and when. That is to be highly considered in the decision about when.
I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer to this question of when to announce a pregnancy. I just wanted to share my heart in why we announce early, and answer some of the questions that have come up over the years for us.
We are praying that the Lord will keep our baby strong and healthy, and that things progress well.
May God be glorified in all the not so average mamas/ladies today! 😀